Half of the cuckolds would invite a friend to have sex with their wife
At first glance, being a cuckold may be a bad and unacceptable situation. But, the truth seems to be that either you are and you don’t know it; or you know it and you enjoy it. At least, this part of enjoying it, is what happens with more than 300 thousand men who declare themselves cuckolds and who are registered on Sexlog, the largest sex and swing site in Latin America. Of this total, more than 60 thousand joined the platform in 2023, in other words, the cuckold fetish is on the rise and moving the liberal folks, so much so that it has its own day: April 25th.
Who are they?
A cuckold is nothing more than a man whose sex drive is to see or to know that his partner, the hotwife, has sexual relations with another man. In this sense, he can actively participate or just watch. Some just like to hear the stories their wives tell when they get home, as is the case of professor Jô*, 54, who says he gets very horny with this situation. “I like it when she goes out with other guys, comes home and we have sex while she tells me about this date, it makes me very horny”, he reveals.
What do they eat?
Cuckolds’ lust is fueled by seeing their women having pleasure with other men. Sexlog’s CMO, Mayumi Sato, says that the website receives countless erotic stories written by its visitors who report detailed experiences. “The reports are diverse, but many believe that they would not provide as much pleasure to their wives, which is why they agree to share them and get aroused by it. But, the cuckold fetish is also about the couple, it is not about isolated pleasure. It’s about sharing the experience that involves other fetishes too, such as voyeurism, threesomes and dirty talk.”
There are also those who feed on their own jealousy, as is the case of Jô*. He says he discovered he was a cuckold when he was faced with a betrayal. While he felt the discomfort of jealousy, there was also lust. “I betrayed her first, she went to get revenge with a friend of mine and I ended up liking it. During the argument, she told me what had happened, we had sex and it was great. I’m often jealous, but I like it”, he says.
Among friends
In a survey carried out with Sexlog cuckolds, half of them claimed that they have no problem inviting friends to have sex with their hotwives. Regarding jealousy, 62% reveal that they have never even been jealous of them; 21% have felt this discomfort once and 17% have suffered from it more than once.
Silva*, 43, has maintained a liberal marriage for 17 years and has always been horny to see his wife with other men, but he didn’t really know how to classify this fetish, until, recently, his partner discovered the term and he quickly identified himself. He says that he discovered Sexlog through swinging and that he doesn’t mind inviting friends to have sex with his wife. “We became friends with a single because the date was really good and we still do it to this day. I don’t mind keeping in touch with him, nor inviting other friends to participate.”
Just like Silva, 47% of the cuckolds who participated in the survey said they don’t mind if the hotwife wants to maintain contact with the single, also known as the bull. 33% claim that it depends on the case and 20% prefer that this not happen and that all contact only happens between four walls.
Where do they live?
A good portion of Brazilian municipalities have at least one cuckold. According to the latest Sexlog survey, based on registrations that marked this fetish as one of their preferences, they are 334,230, spread across 2321 cities.
The southeast leads as the region with the most assumed cuckolds: 171,129. The top #5 cities with the most cuckolds around are São Paulo, Rio de Janeiro, Belo Horizonte, Campinas and Uberlândia. In the northeast, there are 59,327. And the five municipalities with the highest incidence of the fetish are: Fortaleza, Salvador, Recife, Natal and João Pessoa.
In the South, there are 49,224 adepts, and the five cities that are most interested are Curitiba, Porto Alegre, Florianópolis, Maringá and Londrina. Brasília, Goiânia, Campo Grande, Cuiabá and Anápolis are the five most interested in this subject in the Central-West region, which totals 35,165 cuckolds.
In the North there are 19,385 cuckolds, the #top 5 cities with the most adepts are Manaus, Belém, Boa Vista, Porto Velho and Macapá.
Eeny, meeny, miny, moe
Sexlog also listened to the hotwives and when asked about the choice of the bull, 67% said that they are the ones who choose, but with the help of the cuckolds. 18% said they do it alone and 14% revealed that it is their husbands who decide.
The student Erika*, 34, likes to share the choice with her husband. For her, the fetish begins at that moment that requires a lot of intimacy and for one partner to get to know the other. “When we choose together, we are also taking into account each person’s preferences, knowing that it will be an experience that needs to be pleasurable for both of us”, she says.
The majority of respondents, 75%, reveal that they prefer to choose the bull through Sexlog, since it is possible to chat beforehand, send photos and videos and create intimacy before the date. “One thing that is very important for me is confidentiality. I can browse freely, get to know lots of people, without anyone knowing who I am. They will only meet me later, when the date is set. This way, we avoid any unnecessary embarrassment”, she concludes.